The untangling
Being everyone's emotional container feels normal.
Until it doesn't.
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You are the woman who wants to break free — from the obligations, the expectations, the endless list of things that somehow always fall to you.
You work to excess and worry to excess and still feel like you are not doing enough. You spread yourself so wide and so thin that somewhere along the way you became weak in places you used to feel strong.
You give in because it is easier than the conversation that follows when you don't. You accept roles because they are expected — daughter, mother, the strong one, the reliable one — not because you chose them.
You have learned somewhere deep in your bones that love means putting everyone and everything before your own needs.
And you cannot remember the last time you knew how to feed your own soul.
And there are so many reasons why.
Some of it you can explain — being a mother, a daughter, an auntie. But there are other ways you became the holder that you had no say in.
What you picked up from your parents, your culture, your ancestors. All the ways you were conditioned to hold these responsibilities and burdens from your lineage long before you had language for any of it.
How long has the exhaustion been living in you?
You’ve carried this heaviness for so long that you probably no longer know where they end and where you begin.
Just being able to name what has been unnamed inside of you all of these years is allowing your body to begin releasing the inner pain.
Your tired of carrying the weight of other people’s expectations like it’s your birthright.
You're tired of being the one who understands, the one who forgives, the one who adjusts, the one who absorbs everything for everyone.
We don’t always notice the knots at first.
It may live under your ribs like something you were born with — a tightness, a bracing, a readiness to step in before anyone even asked. Some women think it's part of their personality. Some believe its a sign of competence. Most believe its an act of love.
It had taken me years to realize most of it wasn’t mine to hold.
These knots were handed to so many of us long before we had language for it.
A mother’s exhaustion.
A father’s silence.
A family’s unspoken rules.
The way everyone looked at us when something needed to be held together. Where we were always expected to be the responsible one.
So many of us learned early that if we didn’t do it, no one would.
So we stepped in.
And we keep on doing it.
And the world praises us for it — the reliable one, the strong one, the one who doesn’t fall apart, they say.
But no one ever asks us what it cost to hold all of that responsibility, all of those emotions, all of those burdens.
With every crisis we manage, with every emotion we absorbed, with every responsibility we inherited without giving consent, the knots get tighter and tighter.
And somewhere along the way, we forget, we forget that we can put things down that are not for us to hold.
We often forget, in the hectic pace of life that we can say no.
We often forget or don't know that we can let other people face the consequences of their own choices.
We don't always know we can choose ourself without feeling like we are abandoning everyone else, when the truth is we are always abandoning ourselves.
Our body — our tired, aching, overextended body — has been whispering the truth to us the whole time:
I was never meant to carry all of this.
Jessa felt the same way…
She came to me beyond tired, and she'd tried so much stuff on social media, and so much of it made her feel worse.
Jessa was making money, keeping her business afloat — but some days she just couldn't move. The energy wasn't there, but she had to keep showing up for everyone else in he business, in her life, and in her world. Most days she could barely move, her body felt heavy and bloated, and stiff.
She had tried so many other things. She had read the books, followed the advice from influencers on social media, tried to think her way through it. She said some of it helped for a while. Mostly, so much of it made her feel like the problem was hers to bear. Like she just wasn't trying hard enough or doing it right. She wasn't sure anything could actually reach what she was feeling deep inside. Jessa couldn't remember when she started noticing it; it felt really deep in her. It felt really tangled up tight.
Jessa wasn't looking for a miracle, she just wanted to feel something different; lighter. And in our sessions together something did begin to loosen. I watched her face change one day — during a moment when something she'd never seen before suddenly became impossible to unsee.
She'd been the one handling everything in her business. So many tasks her team could have taken off her plate years ago. She carried because she felt she had to. Because letting go of control felt more dangerous than the exhaustion of holding on.
She'd always known something was off. She'd just been ignoring the signals for so long that she forgot who and where she was inside of the entanglement living within.
Now, that one realization didn't fix everything, but it did begin to change the direction of everything.
The Untangling is an experiential immersion into the beginning of becoming unburdened. Each session is designed to move you beyond where thinking has never reached — those places deep within your body where you have been holding what was never yours. It's there, where the knots live. Where the exhaustion beyond the exhaustion has its roots. This is where we begin to learn the art of putting things down and deep soul nourishment.
And what you build here does not stay within these sessions. It becomes part of how you move through your days — those specific moments where you have always overridden yourself. The tiny, almost invisible practices of coming back to your own body in real time. That is what changes on a Tuesday morning.
It's in the moment we begin where you will be seen in all your heaviness, tiredness, and hope. Your path, your story will be accepted without a need to explain yourself or justify what you are feeling. The only thing required of you is that you arrive exactly as you are — tired, tangled, and ready to be seen in it.
Session One
This is where you are seen, witnessed, and heard for your own truth and your life in this exact moment. Nothing needs to be different than it is. Nothing needs to be explained or justified. We honor you here — your perseverance, your bravery, your quiet desire for something to finally change.
Session Two
Here we step into the living mechanics of your energy. The shadows. The places where you have been holding what was never yours. This is where the work begins to unroot — not in your mind but in your body where the holding actually lives.
Session Three
This is where we begin to learn the art of putting things down. Together we loosen some of the threads inside your entanglement. You begin to see which threads can stay and which ones are ready to be released. And you begin — one half step at a time — to walk the path of the unburdened woman.
Becoming unburdened is returning to what is essential.
In the quiet way of a woman who has finally stopped feeding what was never meant to be fed — and started tending to what has been waiting for her attention all along.
What was depleted by years of responsibility and burden begins, slowly, to restore itself. And life — her actual life — starts to find its own natural balance.
Through a deep remembering — slowly, tenderly, truthfully —
of the parts of you that you didn’t mean to lose.
Finally, a path back to yourself again.
This is a beginning.
A beginning you’ve been waiting for.
It is about unbecoming everything that was never you.
Slowly. Honestly. One thread at a time.
Until what remains is simply you
— unburdened, unforced, and finally free to choose.
"The Untangling gave me the breath I didn't know I had been holding back. For the first time I could feel where I had been weighed down by carrying so much responsibility — in my body, not just in my mind. Patricia met me exactly where I was without asking me to be anywhere else. In a short time something in me began to loosen. I didn't just create better paths in my life. I remembered that I was allowed to walk my own."
Jessa l.
Energetics intuitive/Podcast Host/Curandera
Patricia Rundblade
I know this exhaustion from the inside.
I have walked this path. I have held what was never mine to hold until the day my body finally said enough. In my darkest moment the person who showed up for me was my friend and mentor — the woman who talked me off the ledge when everything fell apart.
That day changed the direction of everything.
In the time since, I have sat with women carrying the same heaviness of deep exhaustion. Women who were expected to be responsible and capable at an early age, and who are quietly disappearing inside the weight of exhaustion. The same women who have forgotten that they are allowed to put things down.
This work is my sacred work and medicine. Not because I studied it, but because I have lived it, and because I know what becomes possible when we begin to set our burdens down.
Your invitation is for three sessions complete in themselves.
Should you choose to continue the journey that is always available to you.
Payment plans are available.
$1499
Because each Untangling is designed entirely around you, we begin with a brief conversation to ensure this is the right fit for where you are right now.
$1499